ModeratorSeptember 14, 2020 at 7:58 am
- What did you learn about yourself?
- What did you learn about culture?
- What was your favorite quote?
- What surprised you most?
- What is one way you can enact what you learned in your own life?
- How can we each help shift the culture and the conversation surrounding this topic?
MemberSeptember 15, 2020 at 2:50 pm
The thing that I learned about myself while listening to this episode is that mindfulness is important for a real sexual connection. The thing that I learned about culture is that culture tells us that mindfulness isn’t always important to building a real connection.The thing that surprised me most was that men think of the vulva as an ice cream cone and that they lick the woman all the way up to the belly button.The one way that I can enact what I learned in my own life is to understand that mindfulness is important in building a connection with another person. The way that we can each shift the culture and the conversation about this topic is to educate ourselves about connection and to be mindful of both people’s needs.
ModeratorSeptember 18, 2020 at 3:18 pm
“Being in the moment,” is the main quote that stuck out to me from this episode, because as Stephen Snyder puts it after you have great sex, you feel great after! You want it to be an experience. I loved how he put is as “You want to take the high road, you want to experience every part of the meal up to dessert, not just the dessert.” I thought of this example as you’re content with where you are in that moment so throughout the time with your partner you’re loving every part and when it gets to dessert you’re stoked, there’s more to experience still! I also loved it when he mentioned that sex could make you downright stupid. I find that it is so important to fully connect in a relationship, especially during sex, so being in this completely absorbed state of mind so much so that you’re “stupid” just stresses the connection that could be between two people.
ModeratorSeptember 28, 2020 at 10:34 am
Hi Hope! This is what stuck out to me too and reminded me of Episode 3: “Let’s Get Cliterate! Narrowing The Orgasm Gap” with Laurie Mintz when Mintz stated, “Not all satisfying sex ends in orgasm…the best sex is when both people involved get to the point where they’re focused on themselves and fully immersed in their own pleasure and if we can let go of this achievement-oriented goal.” I thought this episode was an important reminder to practice mindfulness in all aspects of your life.
ModeratorSeptember 21, 2020 at 10:33 am
I find mindfulness so fascinating! I’ve always seen it like a tool for meditation and awareness but it’s so great that it’s very useful for sexual connection. I never thought of it but it makes sense!
Mindfulness it’s all about being in the moment and being aware of all of your body parts and all the different sensations at that particular moment. Practicing this method when we’re struggling either with stress or something else, could totally help us just enjoy the moment.
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