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  • Episode 18 & 19 – “Sex Sells? Or Insecurity Sells…” with Caroline Heldman

  • Valentina

    Moderator
    September 21, 2020 at 8:40 am
    • What did you learn about yourself?
    • What did you learn about culture?
    • What was your favorite quote?
    • What surprised you most?
    • What is one way you can enact what you learned in your own life?
    • How can we each help shift the culture and the conversation surrounding this topic?
  • Amy

    Member
    September 21, 2020 at 12:16 pm

    The thing that I learned about myself while listening to these episodes was that at a young age I was exposed to sexual images and played with Barbie dolls that exposed me to the standards of beauty that women are told to live by. The thing that I learned.about culture is that at a young age girls are exposed to sexual images that tell them that they have to look a certain way to impress a guy and that sexual images tell women to buy a product to live by a certain standard of beauty. The thing that surprised me most was that sexual images have been around for years and that there is pressure on women to live up to those images. The way that I can enact what I learned in my own life is to tell my future children that those images are not something that they need to live up to and that being themselves is what will get them further in their lives. The way that we can shift the culture and conversation around this topic is to educate young people about how companies oversexualize images to sell a product and that those images do not define them. We can also let young people know that being themselves is okay and that no one can tell them otherwise.

    • Hope

      Moderator
      September 28, 2020 at 8:52 am

      I had my brother listen to this podcast with me and this is how our conversation went:

      Hope: Yeah, did you even realize how at such a young age women are set up with expectations on how they’re supposed to look starting with some of the first toys we pick up and play with. We are expected to read magazines because it is “feminine” and all these magazines do are demonstrate ways we need to be more like the women society accepts. I just feel like it is beyond important for men to understand the side that women are coming from and it is just as important for the women to understand the men. We don’t take enough time to acknowledge the pressure society puts on anyone, not just a specific gender or group of individuals.

      Cole: Wow, no I didn’t think of that. But similarly to women, men are also expected to fill society’s roles starting as young as when we pick up our first toy. Soldiers, action figures, trucks… all of these toys are supposed to represent the masculinity men are “supposed” to have. Then you think about sex ed and how the whole lesson practically discusses masturbation and how boys can look at porn to get them through puberty…so boys are then expected and encouraged to expose themselves to sexual images at a very young age because society wants us to be men quicker. I do agree though, I think I need to pay more attention to everyone as a whole, versus what men just experience so I can get a greater understanding of what women go through.

  • Sarah

    Member
    October 16, 2020 at 1:21 pm

    It was eye opening to realize how our society does not value feminine things versus masculine things because they do not provide the same monetary value. There was a big cultural push to get women into masculine roles, but did not push for men to engage in feminine actions. Therefore, men are more constricted in their sexuality in this “man box”, making them be less human to be more of a man. Also– I love that Caroline mentioned the Feminine Mystique, I learned about the book during a history class in college and found it very inspirational!

  • Sarah

    Member
    October 16, 2020 at 1:26 pm

    “Children spend 10.4 hours on Media.” This statistic is extremely shocking to me, and we are still not completely aware of the repercussions on our social interactions especially concerning relationships and our abilities to be intimacy. It’s saddening because I’m apart of the generation that really saw the birth and evolved as social media evolved and I notice within myself how much social media has influenced my life in both negative and positive ways.

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