ModeratorSeptember 14, 2020 at 7:53 am
- What did you learn about yourself?
- What did you learn about culture?
- What was your favorite quote?
- What surprised you most?
- What is one way you can enact what you learned in your own life?
- How can we each help shift the culture and the conversation surrounding this topic?
MemberSeptember 15, 2020 at 2:17 pm
The thing that I learned about myself while listening to this episode was that I had the sex talk with my parents and I knew what to do when it comes to sex. I also was exposed to sexual images in magazines at 13. I have young girls in my family who have and will be exposed to sexual images, but it will be different from when I was younger. The thing that I learned about culture is that it exposes young girls and boys to images that glorify sex and they think that those images are what sex is all about. I would hope that those young people will have the sex talk with their parents and have a quality sex education class The thing that surprised me most was that kids are thoughtful enough to ask questions about sex and hope for an honest answer.The one way that I can enact what I learned in my own life is to be honest with my future children when they ask questions about sex and to not be afraid to be honest. The way that we can shift culture and the conversation around this topic is to explain to kids that the images they are exposed to are not what sex is and to be as honest with kids as possible.
ModeratorSeptember 17, 2020 at 10:45 am
The hardest pill to swallow after listening to this episode was that I realized myself, along with many other young adults my age and below, were not given the right amount of tools to succeed. What I mean when I say this is that we were not educated in sex! Instead of being given the tools in school to learn about these topics, we were driven to look things up on our own on the internet. I can’t speak for everyone, but this leads to a misinterpretation of what sex is and should be– specifically for young women. Masturbation is one of the main things I noticed was solely discussed for boys as a positive thing and not even mentioned for girls–
stigmatizing this feeling of pleasure for young women. I just hope that the culture of sex continues to change and people continue to educate themselves on what they want and think sex should mean, to them.
ModeratorSeptember 21, 2020 at 8:58 am
Totally agree with you, Hope! I had the exact same feeling listening to the episode, specially regarding masturbation. When it comes to men it’s the most normal thing in the world but for women it has been super taboo. I’ve noticed that changing a bit and I hope it continues in order to have better sex education for boys AND girls.
ModeratorSeptember 23, 2020 at 12:24 pm
Wow I can remember the moment when my parents too quoted the “birds and bees” talk and I am sure that even though their intentions were the best, they did not educate me for everything I am now experiencing in my early 20s and that is somehow upsetting since it has made me feel vulnerable and lonely. If I can highlight anything from this episode is that I definitely want to make a change for the next generations starting with my children as to fighting stigma around pleasure with my gfs! (which I think I have been doing well lately) I remain hopeful about breaking the stigma around these talks ever since BBXX!
ModeratorSeptember 28, 2020 at 9:06 am
I’m grateful for my parents not shying away from the “talk” when I was younger (and giving me an All American Girl book about puberty in middle school), but my peers were not as fortunate. We all still had to learn about gender identity and different sexualities online. While it helped us understand ourselves better, I wish we would have been given a safe space to talk about these topic with an adult. Definitely would have sped up the self-discovery process!
ModeratorSeptember 28, 2020 at 10:20 am
Safe sex and healthy relationships weren’t discussed in my sex ed classes in grade school—nor in my conservative Chinese home. It wasn’t until I attended college that I was empowered to safely navigate the waters of sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. I really wish there were more honest and open conversations about sexuality in my childhood and adolescence. This episode taught me how I can teach healthy and positive messages about sexuality and relationships to my future children.
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