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September 1, 2020 at 11:20 am
My favorite quote personally was “So, it’s really easy to find yourself in a situation where it’s sort of like: “Wait, that’s not okay? I didn’t… I’ve always talked to my ex, I’m friends with all my exes, how is that a problem? Really, we can’t do that now?” And you know so, often what happens is couples don’t have these conversations until there’s a problem and by a problem what I mean, is somebody feels like somebody crossed the line and somebody else feels like they didn’t”
Ari Tuckman really hits the head on the nail here, how are you supposed to know what your partner is thinking without asking them? This is such a consistent problem nowadays because somehow vulnerability is stigmatized so people don’t feel comfortable saying “Hey, I just don’t want you to do this while we are dating.” Somehow, setting a boundary makes people fear that their partner will leave them if they do so. I mean, I have personally thought “Oh, don’t make this a big deal, or else they’ll leave you,” but who cares! If someone is going to leave you for speaking your mind in a relationship, are they even worth having the relationship with? That is the question that more people need to force themselves to ask.