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October 6, 2020 at 11:33 am
I think this episode reminded me what is my intent for my actions and technology only makes this even more complicated. If something that I’m doing makes my partner uncomfortable, but why does this make them uncomfortable? The issue is you can’t demand too much of another person, the agreement must be achievable. “I’ll never look at porn”, but this is often unrealistic. However, now that this has been expressed and if your partner looks at porn now there is a feeling of betrayal. But this expectation is not necessarily comparable. I think this reminds me that if I ever feel uncomfortable about an action my partner does using technology, such as reconnecting with an ex on social media, it is important to have a conversation regarding intent and then analyze are my expectations unrealistic, or is this interaction harmless. What I really liked from this episode is the concept of disclosure, if you are telling me about your actions they are not secretive and you are not hiding something from me which to me is reassuring to me.