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Prioritizing Your Intimacy

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  1. INTRODUCTION
    Welcome to Prioritizing Your Intimacy!
    1 Topic
  2. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
    What do we mean by intimacy?
  3. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
    1 Topic
  4. Love languages
    Love languages
    1 Topic
  5. Affection
    Catch your partner doing something right
    1 Topic
  6. Catch your partner doing something right
    Affection
  7. Love Maps
    The importance of showing affection
    1 Topic
  8. Appreciation, recognition, and empathy
    The principle of building Love Maps
    1 Topic
  9. Appreciation
  10. Recognition
  11. Empathy
  12. The Four Horsemen
    Homework
  13. Listening
    The Four Horsemen
    1 Topic
  14. Don't try and cheer your partner up
    Listen and learn
  15. Transforming criticism into wishes
    Don't always try and cheer your partner up
    1 Topic
  16. Process an argument
    Transforming criticism into wishes
    1 Topic
  17. Is Not Rocket Science
    Processing is a process
    1 Topic
  18. The 6-second kiss & the 20-second hug
    Your sexual relationship "is not rocket science"
    1 Topic
  19. Talking about sex
    The 6 second kiss & the 20 second hug
    1 Topic
  20. How many times a week
    How to learn and grow & what turns you on
    1 Topic
  21. How to reject your partner
    Is there a magic number?
  22. The art of compromise
    How to turn down sex
    1 Topic
  23. Self care isn't selfish
    What is a compromise?
    1 Topic
  24. Mutual masturbation
    Self care isn't selfish
    1 Topic
  25. Smartphones
    Mutual Masturbation = Hot AF
  26. Happiness is love
    Smartphone sabotage
    1 Topic
  27. Happiness = Love
Lesson 26 of 27
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Smartphone sabotage

BBXX November 13, 2020

“My life has become a major distraction from my cell phone.”

That’s title of a scientific study in the US examining cell phone usage in relationships.
The study concluded that excessive device usage decreased marital satisfaction and went on to suggest that the overuse of cell phones can lead to greater dissatisfaction within important relationships of other kinds as well.


Whether you use your phone for work or leisure, it’s important to make an effort to spend more time face-to-face with your partner. All it takes is to be present, look your partner in the eyes, and have a real conversation. Once you feel more connected to them, you’ll know that it’s worth the effort 🙂

CHANGING HABITS IS A TEAM EFFORT:

Co-author of the study, James Roberts, explains that “if you need to improve as well, approach your partner that this is something you need to tackle together. If you point the finger at your partner without taking responsibility for your own behavior, it won’t go over well.” Like Dr. John Gottman suggests, it’s always best to express how you feel and what you need by using a soft start-up.
SOME IDEAS TO TRY:
  • Defining 30 minutes of daily device-free time
  • Silence your phone during dinner
  • Leave your phone in another room or “charging” every once in a while
  • You might be saying that you need to have  your phone on you at all times for work… Now realize that you need a break from work at some point, too.
  • Know that you can adjust the settings on your phone so that even when your phone is on silent you can allow for certain people can call through with the full volume ring- such as your boss for work emergencies, or perhaps your partner for personal emergencies.

 

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