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Prioritizing Your Intimacy

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    Welcome to Prioritizing Your Intimacy!
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  2. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
    What do we mean by intimacy?
  3. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
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  4. Love languages
    Love languages
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  5. Affection
    Catch your partner doing something right
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  6. Catch your partner doing something right
  7. Love Maps
    The importance of showing affection
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  8. Appreciation, recognition, and empathy
    The principle of building Love Maps
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  9. Appreciation
  10. Recognition
  11. Empathy
  12. The Four Horsemen
  13. Listening
    The Four Horsemen
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  14. Don't try and cheer your partner up
    Listen and learn
  15. Transforming criticism into wishes
    Don't always try and cheer your partner up
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  16. Process an argument
    Transforming criticism into wishes
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  17. Is Not Rocket Science
    Processing is a process
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  18. The 6-second kiss & the 20-second hug
    Your sexual relationship "is not rocket science"
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  19. Talking about sex
    The 6 second kiss & the 20 second hug
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  20. How many times a week
    How to learn and grow & what turns you on
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  21. How to reject your partner
    Is there a magic number?
  22. The art of compromise
    How to turn down sex
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  23. Self care isn't selfish
    What is a compromise?
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  24. Mutual masturbation
    Self care isn't selfish
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  25. Smartphones
    Mutual Masturbation = Hot AF
  26. Happiness is love
    Smartphone sabotage
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  27. Happiness = Love
Lesson 17 of 27
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Processing is a process

BBXX November 13, 2020

Think back to the last few arguments or tiffs you’ve had- with your partner or with anyone at all.
Was the argument actually about anything big? Was it due to a miscommunication, a misunderstanding, or a lack of communication? How much of the argument could have been spared with better communication?

We spend so much of our time in the aftermath of an argument, but often times not in a productive way. What if we told you that you could spare yourself much of the time, energy, and negative consequences of an argument?



It’s important to process your arguments. If you don’t, resentment and emotional distance can show up in your relationship over time.

Processing requires you to be able to talk about what happened without starting another fight. Wait until you’re both calm.  Imagine you’re sitting in the balcony of a theater looking down at yourselves on the stage. Play the situation over again in your mind.

– How did the argument start? Do you even remember?
– How could it have been avoided? How can you improve the process next time around?
– What did you learn?

In the aftermath of a fight, the goal of processing is greater understanding. Remember that conflict is an opportunity to learn how to love each other better over time. Everyone argues, but those who do it poorly experience damage to their relationship as a result, while those who do it right actually become stronger in the long term as a result!

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