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Prioritizing Your Intimacy

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    Welcome to Prioritizing Your Intimacy!
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  2. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
    What do we mean by intimacy?
  3. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
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  4. Love languages
    Love languages
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  5. Affection
    Catch your partner doing something right
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  6. Catch your partner doing something right
  7. Love Maps
    The importance of showing affection
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  8. Appreciation, recognition, and empathy
    The principle of building Love Maps
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  9. Appreciation
  10. Recognition
  11. Empathy
  12. The Four Horsemen
  13. Listening
    The Four Horsemen
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  14. Don't try and cheer your partner up
    Listen and learn
  15. Transforming criticism into wishes
    Don't always try and cheer your partner up
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  16. Process an argument
    Transforming criticism into wishes
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  17. Is Not Rocket Science
    Processing is a process
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  18. The 6-second kiss & the 20-second hug
    Your sexual relationship "is not rocket science"
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  19. Talking about sex
    The 6 second kiss & the 20 second hug
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  20. How many times a week
    How to learn and grow & what turns you on
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  21. How to reject your partner
    Is there a magic number?
  22. The art of compromise
    How to turn down sex
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  23. Self care isn't selfish
    What is a compromise?
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  24. Mutual masturbation
    Self care isn't selfish
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  25. Smartphones
    Mutual Masturbation = Hot AF
  26. Happiness is love
    Smartphone sabotage
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  27. Happiness = Love
Lesson 10 of 27
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BBXX November 17, 2020


Recognition is different from appreciation in two ways:

1. Sometimes we appreciate something without actually giving recognition, as discussed above.

2. While appreciation is generally in response to something that has given ourselves a direct benefit, recognition can be for something irrelevant to us, as discussed below.

In the case of recognition, we can also acknowledge something they have done that does not involve us- an effort or sacrifice they have made that benefits someone else, an accomplishment that have achieved, for example at work or on any sort of personal project, or perhaps something they are currently struggling to overcome.  We’ll be the first to admit that it’s not always easy to tell someone they’re doing a good job or how proud of them you are- it tends to seem out of context, or like we’re making a big deal of something small, or perhaps we plan to tell them later but we forget.

Recognition is the act of acknowledging appreciation. Using the 5 Love Language to express appreciation and recognition could be a simple thank you or an acknowledgement of what they are experiencing, it could be the gesture or gift of bringing them coffee in bed, or giving them an especially amazing hug, etc. A handwritten note or well thought out comment can really go a long way, and even something that doesn’t seem like a big deal to us can sometimes mean a lot more to the other person.  Most importantly, making someone we love happy at little to no cost to ourselves should always be high on our list!