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Prioritizing Your Intimacy

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    Welcome to Prioritizing Your Intimacy!
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  2. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
    What do we mean by intimacy?
  3. The science behind prioritizing your intimacy
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  4. Love languages
    Love languages
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  5. Affection
    Catch your partner doing something right
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  6. Catch your partner doing something right
  7. Love Maps
    The importance of showing affection
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  8. Appreciation, recognition, and empathy
    The principle of building Love Maps
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  9. Appreciation
  10. Recognition
  11. Empathy
  12. The Four Horsemen
  13. Listening
    The Four Horsemen
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  14. Don't try and cheer your partner up
    Listen and learn
  15. Transforming criticism into wishes
    Don't always try and cheer your partner up
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  16. Process an argument
    Transforming criticism into wishes
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  17. Is Not Rocket Science
    Processing is a process
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  18. The 6-second kiss & the 20-second hug
    Your sexual relationship "is not rocket science"
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  19. Talking about sex
    The 6 second kiss & the 20 second hug
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  20. How many times a week
    How to learn and grow & what turns you on
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  21. How to reject your partner
    Is there a magic number?
  22. The art of compromise
    How to turn down sex
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  23. Self care isn't selfish
    What is a compromise?
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  24. Mutual masturbation
    Self care isn't selfish
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  25. Smartphones
    Mutual Masturbation = Hot AF
  26. Happiness is love
    Smartphone sabotage
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  27. Happiness = Love
Lesson 24 of 27
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Self care isn’t selfish

BBXX November 13, 2020

The expression “treat yo self” started as a viral joke, but it actually is an extremely important concept that should be taken seriously (although we will definitely also continue to also use it as a joke to justify things that might be completely over-the-top unnecessary).

What the concept means at it’s core is that you deserve to be rewarded, you deserve to be treated the way you would others, and you deserve to prioritize your happiness (ideally not at the cost of anyone else’s). Your happiness is important because it’s vital to your relationships and the way you live your life. If you’re not good to yourself, you can’t be good to others; if don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others. Fact.


Sacrifice is admirable and in many cases essential to a relationship’s survival, but if not balanced out, it can potentially become a serious problem leading to resentment and distance.

We all have situations in our lives that require us to make sacrifices: an illness in the family, a new baby, or a demanding job. It’s important to know that at many times we won’t be able and should not prioritize ourselves, but then also to recognize and acknowledge when it is ok, and in fact a good idea, to do so.


Sacrifices are not sustainable without sacrifices for yourself. Self-care isn’t selfish because it’s vital to maintaining your relationships, with yourself and with your partner, family members, or friends. It allows you to be more present, appreciative, and to contribute to them more.

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