Prioritizing Your Intimacy
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INTRODUCTIONWelcome to Prioritizing Your Intimacy!1 Topic
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The science behind prioritizing your intimacyWhat do we mean by intimacy?
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The science behind prioritizing your intimacy1 Topic
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Love languagesLove languages1 Topic
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AffectionCatch your partner doing something right1 Topic
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Catch your partner doing something rightAffection
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Love MapsThe importance of showing affection1 Topic
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Appreciation, recognition, and empathyThe principle of building Love Maps1 Topic
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Appreciation
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Recognition
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Empathy
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The Four HorsemenHomework
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ListeningThe Four Horsemen1 Topic
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Don't try and cheer your partner upListen and learn
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Transforming criticism into wishesDon't always try and cheer your partner up1 Topic
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Process an argumentTransforming criticism into wishes1 Topic
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Is Not Rocket ScienceProcessing is a process1 Topic
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The 6-second kiss & the 20-second hugYour sexual relationship "is not rocket science"1 Topic
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Talking about sexThe 6 second kiss & the 20 second hug1 Topic
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How many times a weekHow to learn and grow & what turns you on1 Topic
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How to reject your partnerIs there a magic number?
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The art of compromiseHow to turn down sex1 Topic
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Self care isn't selfishWhat is a compromise?1 Topic
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Mutual masturbationSelf care isn't selfish1 Topic
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SmartphonesMutual Masturbation = Hot AF
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Happiness is loveSmartphone sabotage1 Topic
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Happiness = Love
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To be clear, there is no one definition of “great sex.” It can be different a different definition for everyone, for every couple, and under different circumstances.
When asked what a “healthy sexual relationship” looks like, we try to remind people that it doesn’t even have to refer to sex itself. For example, if two people in a relationship are not having sex but are perfectly happy with that situation, then that is perfectly healthy. Another couple could have frequent sexual encounters, but that don’t involve any penetration, and they could be extremely healthy and happy as well.
In fact, research shows that it is the number of sexual encounters, more so that the number of times intercourse is actually being had, that greater predicts and reflects a couple’s sexual happiness and satisfaction. This can mean anything from heavy kissing to getting handsy to oral sex or mutual masturbation. In case mutual masturbation isn’t in your toolkit yet, here’s why it needs to be.
Stop comparing your sexual relationship to anyone else’s, especially to people you don’t know and stupid myths not backed by science 😉 There will always be times when things are better or worse, but remember communicating about it in the right way can help improve things, and that nothing good comes, let alone stays, without some effort.
But in case you’re wondering if there’s anything in particular you could do to maintain a strong sexual relationship, below is some research by the Gottman Institute to help you.
An online study with 70,000 people in 24 countries revealed couples who have a great sex life everywhere on the planet are doing the same set of things.
The two things in particular that these couples are doing are:
They update their Love Maps, cultivate fondness and admiration, and turn towards each other as often as possible. They pay attention to each other when their partner needs their attention, and they respond to bids for interaction.
2. THEY MAKE SEX A PRIORITY
They don’t let sex fall to the end of a long to-do list. They view sex as special, and they make it an important part of their relationship.
Great sex is not rocket science. By being good friends, by being affectionate, and by talking openly about sex, you can build a thriving relationship inside and outside of the bedroom.