Homework

1. You and your partner should each make a list of 5 of your favorite times the two of you have had sex.

2. Compare and share in detail why you loved each time in particular.

This activity will help get the conversation started about sex, in a very fun and carefree way. It will open the air for more communication about the theme, and hopefully leave each of you feeling slightly more comfortable, if not excited, as a result. Feel free to elaborate on the activity as much as you wish. The idea is to be sure to share the explanation behind each time on the list, because that is where people will indirectly communication clues to what turns them on, what they might want to repeat, and what they find to be the most fun. Chances are if it’s on their top five, they’re bound to be happy to repeat certain patterns that might show up on the list. It’s also a great way to compare where your differences might lie, and once you know them you can better work to trade off and balance them so each partner is happy to give and receive healthily and happily 🙂

REMINDER:
Friendship is key to a relationship, both inside and outside the bedroom. If you remember prioritize your friendship- to cultivate it, strengthen it, and put it first- it will help everything else grow and thrive in the relationship as a result.
Yes, including sex 😉