By Natasha Ivanovic
We don’t need to tell you that the dating world isn’t what it once was.
Our daily interactions and routines have been shaken up big time, and now we need to learn to adapt to our new reality, which includes that of the dating world. The way we meet new people and go on dates has come to a halt, but that doesn’t necessarily mean your dating life needs to be put on hold, too.
Hopefully you’ve gone through our other dating toolkits by now and have mentally prepared yourself for your dating journey. But now that dating discourse has shifted predominantly to the online space, it’s helpful to bring awareness to the differences between traditional and online dating, and how to fulfill your needs through more limited in-person interactions.
This toolkit is intended to guide you through the online dating sphere during the pandemic. Whether you’re someone who’s used a dating app before or are trying it out for the first time, this toolkit will help you navigate this new era of app-based dating.
After reading this toolkit, you’ll hopefully feel more comfortable with the apps, and perhaps even shift your perspective of them as incredible tools to help expand and enrich your experiences within the context of this pandemic.
All About Apps
If you’re new to online dating or haven’t used a dating app in a while, it’s possible that you’re a bit out-of-the-loop. Naturally, everyone starts off uncertain about which apps to use, and how to use them. With so many dating apps on the market, it’s hard to know which ones are worth your time and are going to present the best pool of prospects for you.
But there’s more to it than just choosing the most popular dating app. You also want to choose a dating app that suits your needs. If you’re someone who’s looking for a long-term relationship, choosing an app known for its hook-up culture probably isn’t going to give you the results you want.
Before you download a slew of dating apps, it’s important to think about what you’re looking for. Below we provide you with some helpful links to educate yourself on some of the most popular dating apps on the market and discover which one(s) are worth your time.
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There are millions of people looking for love online, and knowing that, it can be hard to figure out where to start. You first need to look at your own needs. Once you identify what you’re looking for, then you can see which dating apps fit your particular expectations and goals. This article goes over the most popular dating apps on the market, and what audience they’re designed for.
No one knows what’s going to happen in the future. And maybe you’re thinking online dating is a trend that’ll fade away with time; but, for now, it probably isn’t going anywhere. This article talks about the various mental health effects brought on by the pandemic and how dating will continue to evolve for the foreseeable future.
There’s no one-size-fits-all formula when it comes to dating. If you’re in your fifties, you may want a more age-focused dating app, or if you love the countryside, you may want to meet someone who also enjoys a more rural scenery. Either way, you may not find your specific needs on Tinder or OkCupid and that’s okay! This article talks about alternative dating apps you can try out.
Meet-Cute, But Make it Digital: Online Dating During a Pandemic
If you’ve decided which app you’re going to try out first, you’re one step closer to meeting someone great. But you’re going to have to put in a bit more effort after downloading the app. You’ll need to create an engaging profile and read through other people’s profiles, selecting potential matches for yourself. This part can feel a little overwhelming, especially if you’ve never used a dating app before or have been out of the game for some time.
However, it’s not as difficult as it first appears, at least with our help. The links below are going to walk you through the many in’s and out’s of online dating. You’ll learn everything you need to know, from making a captivating profile to being mindful of potential warning signs. You want your online dating experience to be a positive one, so preparation will be key.
Reading & Resources
If there’s anything we’ve learned from the pandemic is that our time is precious, and you don’t want to waste it talking to people on dating apps who aren’t on the same page as you. This guide offers some useful tips to help you make the most of your online dating experience.
There are millions of people online trying to find a potential partner. So how do you make your profile stand out among the rest and attract like-minded people? Thankfully, this article lays out everything you need to make your online profile shine.
Living during a pandemic isn’t easy, and dating during a pandemic isn’t any easier. But by practicing self-care, you can help yourself through this time. In this BBXX Podcast episode, Rashawnda Williams talks about the importance of self-care and the easy ways to give yourself a little extra love and attention during this time. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of the apps, but be sure to give yourself the time and attention you need; doing will also prevent swiping fatigue!
There are a ton of unanswered questions when it comes to dating during a pandemic. It’s safe to say most of us haven’t experienced this before, and there’s no established guide for us to follow. This article covers everything from transitioning from online to outdoor dates, and, of course, if safe sex possible during the pandemic.
Online dating can be just as complicated as traditional dating. However, the upside of conventional dating is that you’re able to get a sense of the person in real life. So, how do you know the person you’re talking to is being honest with who they say they are? How do you see the red flags when you’re texting? This piece lays out the essential elements to look out for when online dating.
The Pandemic, Your Emotional Well-being, & Dating
We are collectively experiencing a set of new and unprecedented circumstances in our world, and it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by it all. But cliches aside, we really are all in this together and it’s important to acknowledge that what we’re going through is hard, and to seek out information on how to best care for yourself emotionally and psychologically in the process––particularly if you’re starting to date and grappling with the many emotions that come with the territory.
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During this time, it can feel like parts of your life might be “on hold” and as if everything has come to a standstill. But we need to acknowledge the small achievements we all still make on a daily basis. If you’ve decided to join an online dating app, that is an achievement in itself. In this BBXX Podcast episode, we talk about the importance of taking a step back and celebrating the small wins in life, because they really do matter.
Loneliness levels have risen significantly during this pandemic, and many people are struggling to cope during this difficult time. This article talks about the challenges that so many are facing, and how you can manage your feelings of loneliness during this tumultuous time. And, if it feels right, starting a fun conversation on the apps can sometimes help to generate feelings of excitement, happiness, and connection.
When it comes to quarantine, this show captures all of the feels. Netflix’s new series, Social Distance, is a dark comedy focusing on Covid-19 struggles, highlighting various characters’ experiences while trying to stay connected.
Tying it all together
The online dating world has some significant differences from traditional IRL dating. But these differences aren’t necessarily negative ones; you just need to adapt to them. And now, with the pandemic, we don’t have much of a choice if we want to continue meeting new people.
But, it can be a lot of fun, and what’s key is approaching online dating with an open mind and an understanding of what you want. Before downloading any dating app, educate yourself so you know what to expect. By choosing an app that fits your lifestyle and relationship goals, you’ll be able to meet like-minded people and focus on fulfilling your own needs and desires.
Additionally, the links provided will help you navigate through online dating as smoothly as possible. There will inevitably be some bumps along the way, but we like to see those speedbumps as important learning lessons in getting you closer to understanding what you really want out of your dating experience.
If you have any questions or thoughts that weren’t addressed here, we’d love to hear from you at firstname.lastname@example.org or on IG at @bbxx.world. Happy swiping!