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Home Forums Episode 9 – “Communication- Mind and Body – with Roger Kuhn

  • Episode 9 – “Communication- Mind and Body – with Roger Kuhn

  • Valentina 

    September 7, 2020 at 6:59 am
    • What did you learn about yourself?
    • What did you learn about culture?
    • What was your favorite quote?
    • What surprised you most?
    • What is one way you can enact what you learned in your own life?
    • How can we each help shift the culture and the conversation surrounding this topic?
  • Jessica 

    September 7, 2020 at 5:01 pm

    Two helpful reminders from this episode

    • “Why” questions can make someone defensive while “what” questions can lead to better conversation
    • Ask for operational definitions because you might think you’re talking about the same thing but y’all are thinking of two different concepts
  • Amy

    September 8, 2020 at 1:36 pm

    The thing that I learned about myself listening to this episode is that communication is key when in an intimate relationship. The thing I learned about culture is that in a relationship both people need to have a solid foundation of communication. The thing that surprised me most is that why questions can make a person in a relationship very defensive and feel like they can’t be trusted. One way that I can enact what I learned in my own life is to try to communicate better with the people around me so that my relationships can be healthier. The way that we can shift the conversation and the culture on this topic is to communicate better with the people around us and to build healthier relationships with solid communication.

  • Hope 

    September 10, 2020 at 1:08 pm

    I think these are both very great points to grab from this episode, Jessica!

    I think it is incredible that people can learn information like this and it can completely better their lives. For example, I never really thought about the fact that “why” questions could make someone defensive but now that I have, I have had much better conversations with my friends! Also, we just are having better communication in general because no one feels like they’re being targetted for no reason. I also have started to notice the differences between genuine “what” questions and judgy “what” questions and I can’t decide if I think that is a good thing to notice or not haha.

  • Valentina 

    September 14, 2020 at 5:22 am

    I completely agree with all of your thoughts. I think that communication is the most important aspect that you need to have with your partner, if there’s no communication it’s difficult for the other person to know the things you like in bed and in general. It’s not easy having these awkward conversation but the result truly worth it.

  • BBXX 

    September 14, 2020 at 8:31 am

    These are two incredible reminders that I’m trying to implement in my everyday conversations! Like Roger said, people feel like they have to defend themselves and their interests when you ask why. It’s like when you’re a kids asking “why” for the billionth time; you’re inquisitive but you don’t get the full understanding of what you’re asking about.

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